My definition of success
For such a long time, I thought that being successful means that I have to achieve as much as I can — more money, more power, more experience, more people who like me… The more I achieve, the more successful I am.
I have no idea why I had that kind of definition in my mind. But it was there in my mind for such a long time. I started chasing other people’s damn dreams. Dream after dream. It never stops. Once you start, it is super hard to stop.
2016, I left my comfort zone for the first time in my life. Since then, I changed drastically. Starting over in a new country has taught me so many valuable lessons. And the very first lesson is to redefine a definition of success.
For me, being successful is not about achieving. But it is about getting better — physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually — every single day.
The day I understand this new definition was the day I stopped racing. I stopped thinking about winning or losing. The only thing I have had in my mind ever since is “getting better”.
“Getting better” equals “positive changes”
I firmly believe that to get better you have to change positively. Challenge the status quo. It doesn’t matter if it is a small or big change. If it is a positive change, I will do it, I will embrace it. To be honest, I have not gone through a lot of big changes but I love small positive changes.
I constantly challenge myself and I constantly fight against the bad man inside me.
When I am being selfish, I try my best to remind myself that I am being selfish. By acknowledging that, I will be able to take a step back — rethink about what I have done or thought — then slowly eliminate the bad thoughts in my mind.
When I am being emotional, I try to follow the same approach to get out of control of my own emotions.
It does not work all the time. But it definitely helps. And whenever I can do it, I know that I am one step closer to being successful. I know for sure that for me, it is not about major changes but it is all about the power of small consistent changes.
